I often find myself saying, "Can't we all just get along?" lately. Sometimes it is to my kids, sometimes it is to teens in the youth group, and sometimes it is to other adults. It seems like there is just so much bickering and arguing happening between people lately. I even see it on social media and it just bugs me.
So how do you do this in today's world where people are encouraged and applauded for speaking their minds, even when it is rude and hurtful? You choose to be different. You choose to speak truth, not just bold, hurtful truth, but truth with love and kindness. You choose to build others up. You look for the good in people at all times. You be kind. You be polite. You encourage. You love others even when they aren't be very lovable. This isn't easy, but it is worth it. There will be times you will have to bite your tongue or think hard about what you will say before you say it. After a while, it will just come naturally, even on your bad days. You can even find something good about people who drive you crazy or people that have hurt you. Doing this will help you accept those people and build them up even if they have hurt you and you don't want to be around them. Also make sure you aren't tearing other people down behind their back. If you wouldn't say whatever you are saying to someone's face, don't say it behind their back. The world tears us down enough on it's own. All you have to do is take a look around you and you will find a billion ways the world says we aren't good enough or won't measure up. Is that really who we are? Absolutely not!!! God tells us we are created in His image and that is way better than anything the world says about us.
So take every opportunity you can to build others up instead of tear them down. It's the little things you notice about people that can build them up - a nice smile, a contagious laugh, a talent someone is good at, pretty eyes, noticing when they are doing a good job, and on and on. Step out, be bold, and build 'em up.